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1 in 4 college women will be the victim of sexual assault

What will you do to help break the statistic?

National Study Ranks Tennessee 5th in Murders of Women by Men

 

What can you do to help prevent sexual assault?

You have more power than you may think to help in the fight against sexual assault. Both men and women can be victims and perpetrators of sexual crimes and both sexes can help to prevent it.

 

Take a stand against sexual assault by not participating in sexist or sexually violent jokes and comments. Don't worry about looking lame by standing up for what you believe in. Sometimes, you can influence others by simply staying true to your beliefs. Your friends should respect your opinion, even if they do not agree.

 

If you see someone in danger or in need of your help, call 911. Explain to emergency personnel what you witnessed. Do not put yourself in danger. By getting help to a victim as soon as possible, you may help save a life.

 

Even if your friends are the ones acting inappropriately towards women, don't stand by while it happens. Let them know you do not approve of what they are doing. Explain to them why these actions are inappropriate.

 

Inform yourself of the issue of sexual assault and share your knwoledge with your peers. We have a bigger influence over our friends than we may believe. If you can cause one other person to think about the issue of sexual violence, you have created one more informed person. This information will help that person make the right decision if faced with the issue.

 

Familiarize yourself with the campus and community resources available to victims. You will be able to help a friend when you know where they can access the help they need.

 

If you feel you are in an abusive relationship, contact PSEPP in confidence. Our staff are here to help you with issues of domestic violence and abuse. You will not be ridiculed and your information will be held in the strictest confidence.

 

Despite cultural norms, domestic abuse is not based on who is bigger and stronger. It is about the person in the relationship who has control and power over the other. Abuse takes many forms inlcuding physical, psychological, even verbally abusive means. Men feel that they are macho enough to ignore the abuse and tend to not even acknowledge it as abuse. The silence of men in abusive relationships is reinforced by the disbelief and ridicule they may face on reporting domestic abuse being committed against them. Living with domestic abuse can result in depression, loss of confidence or self-worth, substance abuse and suicide.

 

Men tend to not consider being kicked, bitten, hit with a fist or object, beaten up, threatened with a deadly weapon by an intimate partner as domestic violence or abuse.

 

Has your partner ever done any of the above or:

  • told you you were worthless and unattractive or that no one else would want you?
  • tried to prevent you from seeking medical attention?
  • deliberately destroyed or damaged something you value?
  • thrown things at you or broken objects in an argument?
  • hurt or threatened to hurt you or your children?
  • abused drugs or alcohol?
  • suddenly gotten out of control and extremely angry then tried to make it up afterwards?
  • forced you to have sex or made you do things during sex that made you uncomfortable?
  • threatened to leave you and take the children because 'women always get custody'?
  • threatened to commit suicide if you leave?
  • put you down in front of friends or called you names?
  • prevented you from seeing friends or family?
  • spent large sums of money without telling you what it is for and kept the family finances a secret?

 

In your relationship have you ever:

  • changed your behavior to avoid violence?
  • felt that you cannot do anything right?
  • worried about being attacked in your sleep?
  • constantly worried about the next time your partner got drunk or high?
  • found it difficult to maintain relationships because your partner does not approve?

 

If you have ever experienced any number of the above, you are experiencing domestic abuse. Some of the above could pose a threat to your safety. If you are the victim of domestic abuse, contact PSEPP in confidence to gain access to services you need.

 

Acknowledge that domestic violence happens to men as well. You are not alone and you should not feel afraid to ask for the help you need.

 

Don't keep the abuse silent. You could be placing yourself in danger by not reporting or speaking to someone you trust about the abuse. PSEPP staff are available and willing to help you get counseling services at your request.

 

If you contact emergency services, insist that the police make a report of your injuries and record them accordingly. Take pictures of any injuries and keep them in a safe place. Always follow any legal advice you receive.

Warning Signs

Life on a college campus means you may encounter someone you suspect is being abused in some way. If you ever become concerned for a student, friend, or family member, PSEPP can help you help them.

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Prevention Techniques

Sexual Assault like many other crimes is a crime of opportunity and motive. There are no hard and fast rules to guarantee your safety. However, there are some steps you can take to reduce your risk of being assaulted.

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